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The Wild Horse and Feeling Overwhelmed

Siegfried — Mon, 18 Jan 2021 17:01:32 +0000

The Wild Horse and Feeling Overwhelmed

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As part of the series on making the Wild Horse more practical I would like to address something that is very prevalent in our time, namely the fact that so many of us are feeling overwhelmed by our current circumstances.

Before we start, I think it is important that everyone understands what the Wild Horse is. the Wild Horse is a combination of two of the Laws of OUR Nature: the Law of Self and the Law of Slip. The Law of Self states- we will think of ourselves first, note that we start at this point and do not stay at this point. We move from this point of focus on ourselves at different speeds, but that is where we start. In a similar fashion the Law Slip says that we go to the worst place we can possibly go first. If you would like more information on the Wild Horse feel free to have a look at my TEDx talk that I did on the topic.

Today we want to look at the tendency to exaggerate what you are dealing with. That does not say that we do not have very difficult things that we are dealing with, it just says that sometimes we make this more difficult or bigger than it needs to be. That whole thing about turning a mole hill into a mountain and the reason for that is mainly the Wild Horse. Most people currently tend to fall into this trap, because it is an accepted norm nobody is going to tell you that you should not be thinking that we are all in a difficult time. During this time everyone agrees it is tough and I absolutely agree with that statement these are trying times, but what happens is that what we are dealing with is being exaggerated. It becomes so big that we cannot deal with it.

I have heard people say, “I don’t know how we should deal with this future; I think everything is senseless”, we think this is a new thing. I can remember when I was in school, grade one, I overheard my father say “I don’t know why we even vote, because there’s no sense in it, politics is all just a scam anyway!” That was 30 odd years ago. Today is probably different but it is the same dynamic. We still have Wild Horses that tell us that everything is at its extreme. We tell ourselves that it is going to be bad for ourselves and that makes it difficult for us to deal with the things that we are dealing with daily.

So, my challenge to you today is. Note how you look at the current situation. Whatever your current situation might be, acknowledge that it is bad but try to stay away from putting it into the extreme unmanageable difficult box. Start managing it, by focusing on the small and manageable and work towards a more manageable environment and view thereof. This can be achieved by asking yourself “So what can I do?” We tend to be fast at seeing what we cannot do and when we focus on everything, we cannot do we feel helpless and that is exactly what the Wild Horse does, because the worst thing about yourself that you can think is that you can’t do anything. So, the more we focus on what we can do, the more we will feel empowered. Then we will start dealing with things and thereby start taming that Wild Horse that is currently just stealing from us.

I want to challenge you do that exercise. Have a look at other areas of your life where you are really exaggerating the power of your environment and the power of the current situation. Then start forcing yourself to search for more solutions for the things that you can do. There are always things that are in your power and possibly the things that you can be grateful for and all of that will change not your world but your attitude towards the world and as we change our attitude towards our environment, we can deal with far more things.

Now if you want to take this to the next level you want to ask yourself how you help the people around you with the Wild Horses they have about the current situation and how can you help them to improve that thinking about the power of the current situation.

I hope you have fun working on this and I wish you all the best in this process.

My Underestimated Horse

Siegfried — Mon, 11 Jan 2021 14:55:14 +0000

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My Underestimated Wild Horse

The Wild Horse Theory has changed many lives for the better over the last 13 yeas since I developed it. People have moved forward in their lives and never looked back. It has impacted teams in ways that they never thought possible. It has shown couples how they are tricked by their human nature into a relationship.
After years of presenting and training on the topic of the Wild Horse I am stunned at how some people treat the gift of this insight as just insight and not a transformational tool that should speed up their development in all areas of their lives.
They behave like someone that gets the newest Model Ford Mustang and is amazed how it can fill up the garage and then forgets it in the garage. This person would be described as insane. How can you have a brand-new powerful vehicle and not take it out on the road to feel the thrill of its power to take you toward the new?
Yet nobody finds it strange when you get a tool to gain more insight and never take it out of the proverbial garage of your life and apply it to the various areas of your life. Nobody frowns on someone never using the Wild Horse to grow their insight into themselves and other toward a brighter future.
I intend to start from next week with a weekly brief weekly video and challenge to help people experience the true wild power of this theory in all aspects of their lives. I hope you will be part of the experience. All I will require from you is your commitment to taking up the challenges and use them to GROW your Capacity.

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The Neglected Subliminal Message

Siegfried — Fri, 09 Mar 2018 15:15:12 +0000

So many times I have set with senior executives that had the best of intentions and still the message they sent was not received the way they would expect or was not received at all. Although the reasons for this phenomenon vary, at it’s core there is always the same concept and that is the subliminal message.

Imagine a leader stands on a stage delivering a well-crafted speech on unity. Imagine him/her standing behind a stand while delivering the talk. What would you say is the subliminal message? Chances are that the message would not be received because the subliminal message would be that the leader is not part of the group.

Now imagine that same leader moving amongst the people while delivering the speech. Or imagine that one voted representative of each team joins him/her on stage and the leader shows specific interest in each before starting the speech. Can you see the powerful subliminal message?

The advertising world has realised the power of planning a message starting from the subliminal outcome that they would like to achieve. I have often wondered how much more powerful we would communicate if we would do the same.

How does this work practically? I am preparing a message for an upcoming conference and I would like to use this insight I gained to craft my message in such a way that there are specific outcomes. So, let’s get to work.

My outcomes are:

1. I would like to have the participants searching for opportunities in which I would be crucial to their business.

2. I would want the participants to tell others about me.

3. I want people to walk away convinced that I have changed their lives permanently.

So, my talk is already done what will I add to send the above subliminal message. Below I will break down some options that I have and some of them I would do others would have ethical challenges for me and therefore I will not do them. Let’s consider each point separately:

1. I would like to have the participants searching for opportunities in which I would be crucial to their business.

• I could start my talk with everyone closing their eyes and imagining the worst challenge they have in life or business. I could ask them to imagine what it feels like when this challenge is removed. When the exercise is done I could ask some people to mention how they felt when they had the challenge removed. I could then express the hope that they will find the tools in my talk to deal with that thing. Even without my efforts they will subconsciously search for solutions in my talk.

• I would suggest that searching for problems everywhere but connecting these problems with an expert in that field might.

• I can mention the story of Peter that heard what I said and connected the dots and with my help and has transformed the business. They will then desire to be like peter and start searching for ways I could help them be the hero also.

After reading the above ask yourself which one of the 3 options do you think I will do?

Can you see the can instead of would or could send a subliminal message about my intent? Have you ever suggested something, and others heard you committing to do it? Might it be that your tenses played a role in this outcome?

2. I would want the participants to tell others about me.

• I know the story of John that heard of a solution and decided not to share the information because he was fearful. John’s friend then suffered great loss because of the lack of insight. This story could be used to indicate a complete other principle, but in a subliminal way the story would prompt people to look for the opportunity to share to prevent that they are also to blame for someone’s demise just as John was to be blamed.

• I could end with the call to share the insight since it is free and could change someone’s life. His was used in a powerful way in Amy Cuddy’s TED talk.

• I could suggest that we all send something on social media and thereby creating a behaviour that I would want participants to repeat.

3. I want people to walk away convinced that I have changed their lives permanently.

• Asking participants to write down and commit to do something different and tell someone in the room that they will do this.

• Talking about the importance of capacity growth and the acknowledgement of growth when it is experienced.

• Find quotes that indicate that permanent change comes with commitment to it.

If I add the above I would be able to send the subliminal messages I intended. Now, if the content of my talk is not great my subliminal messages might achieve the opposite of what I intend. Therefore, the planning of the subliminal message may not erode the intentional message.